Few things hurt more than being betrayed by someone you care about. Healing from betrayal takes time, but there are practical steps you can take to move forward. I’ve been there, and healing is possible, even when it feels out of reach. In this guide, I’m sharing 8 steps to healing from betrayal and regaining your sense of self and trust.

- See Them Clearly
When someone you love betrays you, it’s crucial to see both the situation and the person involved as clearly as possible. Right now, emotions might be clouding your perspective. I have Leo energy, 5th house placements, and a strong Neptune influence—I’m a romantic. If you’re reading this, I’m guessing you might be too. You see potential in people and situations, often overlooking the flaws. Now is the time to acknowledge reality. They are not who you hoped they would be. They have positive traits, but they also carry wounds or differences that have caused you pain. This isn’t about blame—it’s about seeing things as they are. Their actions reflect their choices, not your worth. Recognizing this allows you to step out of illusion and into truth, freeing you to heal and move forward with self-trust. - Practice Self-Compassion
Self-compassion might sound cliché, but it’s essential in this process. It’s about recognizing and validating your feelings and treating yourself with the kindness you deserve. Ask yourself if this person could truly meet your emotional needs. Have they shown the capacity and willingness to do so? If not, holding on to them or wishing for their return is equal to ignoring your needs and desires. You deserve true love, not half-love. - Honor Your Boundaries
Betrayal can shake your sense of security, but setting clear boundaries helps you rebuild self-trust. Boundaries are an expression of self-respect. They define what you will and won’t accept, ensuring your well-being comes first. This might mean limiting contact and recognizing when something no longer aligns with your values. The more you honor your boundaries, the more you reinforce the message to yourself: “I am worthy of safety, respect, and peace.“ Each time you stand by your needs, you deepen your trust in yourself—and that trust becomes the foundation of your healing. - Listen to Your Heart
Take a moment to connect with your heart. Treat it as if it’s a person you’re getting to know. Ask your heart, “Who are you?” and listen to what it tells you, even if it’s just a feeling or a sense of presence. Then ask, “How can I express you?” Maybe your heart will guide you toward a simple act of self-care, like taking a deep breath or giving yourself a comforting hug. This is the beginning of reconnecting with yourself and moving forward. - Release Negative Emotions
Use your breath to connect to and release any anger, sadness, or tension that’s still lingering. As you inhale hold space for your grief, and as you exhale, visualize these emotions leaving your body. Whenever thoughts of the person who hurt you come up, remind yourself, “I let you go because I no longer resonate with your behavior.” Repeat this as often as needed. By doing this, you’re reinforcing your commitment to your own well-being. - Identify What Was Lost
Reflect on the aspects of yourself that were diminished or hurt in the relationship. How did their actions affect you? How did it make you feel? Take a step back and view the situation from a distance. This can help you find fragments of your identity that was lost, probably long before they entered your life. They were a mirror, teaching you something valuable – how you had abandoned yourself. - Nourish Those Parts of Yourself
Once you’ve identified what was lost, commit to nourishing those parts of yourself. Start with small steps, like meditation or self-love journaling, or just a 1 minute self-love prayer. Commit to daily self-love and self-care practices, and trust that this is what it takes for you to heal. - Rediscover Joy
Finally, focus on doing things that bring you joy. Engage in activities you love and allow yourself to enjoy life again. This is about reminding yourself that there’s still plenty of good in the world, and you have every right to experience it.
Should you Forgive the Person?
Forgiveness is letting go. It is saying that happened, and I am not bringing it with me into my future. Forget about forgiving the person (if it naturally happens, great), just focus on for-giving the situation. You can give it to earth. You’ve learnt what you needed, so you don’t need the pain anymore, and she is a master alchemist.
Healing from Betrayal is Self-Discovery
Healing from betrayal is a process of rediscovery—of your strength, your worth, and your ability to rise above the hurt. By following these steps you’re unlocking a new chapter of resilience and self-trust. Embrace the journey and know that the most empowered version of you is already on the other side of this experience.
