Few things hurt more than being betrayed by someone you care about. It takes time to heal from such pain, but there are steps you can take to move forward. I’ve been there, and I want to start by reminding you that healing is possible, even when it feels out of reach.
- See Them Clearly
When someone you love betrays you, it’s crucial to see them for who they truly are—not just their best traits or the person you hoped they would be. You might tend to see the best in people, especially if you’re someone with strong Leo energy, 5th house placements, or a powerful Neptune influence. You connect with their potential, often overlooking their flaws. Now is the time to remove those rose-colored glasses and acknowledge the reality of who they are. - Practice Self-Compassion
Self-compassion might sound like a cliché, but it’s essential in this process. It’s about recognizing and validating your feelings and treating yourself with the kindness you deserve. Ask yourself if this person can truly meet your emotional needs. Have they shown the capacity and willingness to do so? If not, holding on to them or wishing for their return is equal to ignoring your own needs and desires. You deserve true love, and that starts with respecting yourself enough to let go of situations that don’t honor you. - Listen to Your Heart
Take a moment to connect with your heart. Treat it as if it’s a person you’re getting to know. Ask your heart, “Who are you?” and listen to what it tells you, even if it’s just a feeling or a sense of presence. Then ask, “How can I express you?” Maybe your heart will guide you toward a simple act of self-care, like taking a deep breath or giving yourself a comforting hug. This is the beginning of reconnecting with yourself and moving forward. - Release Negative Emotions
Use your breath to release any anger, sadness, or tension that’s still lingering. As you exhale, visualize these emotions leaving your body. Whenever thoughts of the person who hurt you come up, remind yourself, “I let you go because I no longer resonate with your behavior.” Repeat this as often as needed. By doing this, you’re reinforcing your commitment to your well-being. - Find Gratitude in the Experience
List five reasons why you’re grateful for having met this person. It might be difficult to do, but it’s a powerful step in healing. They can’t hurt you more by acknowledging what you’ve learned from the experience. If all you feel is grief, that’s okay too. Ask yourself what the grief is teaching you. It’s not about needing them back, though it may feel like it, but about recognizing the parts of yourself that were lost or forgotten before they came into your life. This is your chance to reclaim those parts. - Identify What Was Lost
Reflect on the aspects of yourself that were diminished or hurt in the relationship. How did their actions affect you? How did it make you feel? Take a step back and view the situation from a distance. This can help you find the lost fragments of your identity. - Nourish Those Parts of Yourself
Once you’ve identified what was lost, commit to nourishing those parts of yourself. Start with small steps, like meditation or journaling, and gradually move toward taking action. For example, if you missed physical affection, find ways to fulfill that need through close friendships or community groups. If you’re waiting for that special someone, visualize how it would feel to be with a partner who meets your needs. Trust that by connecting with these feelings, you’re creating the space for them to manifest in your life. - Rediscover Joy
Finally, focus on doing things that bring you joy. Engage in activities you love and allow yourself to enjoy life again. This is about reminding yourself that there’s still plenty of good in the world, and you have every right to experience it.
